I'm the gal you met at the baby shower last weekend.
I worship with you at our church.
I am your child's teacher. Your attorney.
I am your neighbor.
The details of my story are unique, but my story is not.
I was married to a Psychopath. Some people find the term "Psychopath" too extreme. A label of "Sociopath" or "Narcissist" may be more palatable. I tend to lump them all together as NSP = Narcissist/Sociopath/Psychopath. From my study on the subject, these terms are often used interchangeably.
My name isn't Rose Lee Mitchell.
I couldn't use my real name to share my story about divorcing a Psychopathic Husband. Not while I share custody of our children.
I must trust my gut.
I keep my story and details unspecific in order to feel safe.
My ex-husband is a psychopath.
Because he is a psychopath, I choose to be vague regarding the specifics of my life. That applies to the number and genders of my children. I may have 1, 2, 3 or 4 children. They may all be boys. Or girls. Or some mix.
He regularly threatened to sue me for defamation, slander, and custody. The court system allows the looks-good-on-paper Psychopath to thoroughly time-waste and financially-waste, which he did repetitively. And he may do again. Though things are calm now....
He threatened divorce during the entire marriage.
He threatened to take my children during the entire marriage.
He tried to take my children when I left him and during the divorce process and even after custody was settled.
Things are currently calm now, years later.
But I know that he could flare up again....
He claimed I was mentally ill.
He claimed I was an unfit mother.
He claimed I was an alcoholic.
So, no. My name is not Rose Lee.
For women like me, Divorce is the only option. Living with a psychopath is not living at all. It wears away at your health, your heart and your soul. Getting out is the only way to have a life.
If you are married to a Narcissist/Sociopath/Psychopath:
It cost me a fortune and years of my life. He is a burden to me, and to my children. He is a neglectful, disordered and abusive father. I spend a huge amount of time and emotional energy making up for his crazy-making parenting. I patch my children back together. It is exhausting, but what choice do I have? We all have our burdens. This is mine.
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